Stages of Greif

Denial

Denial is a temporary defensive reaction to an event. A person that faces a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept, they then reject that fact – this is denial.

Simple Denial: The person may deny the reality of the unpleasant fact all together.

Minimization: The person may admit the fact however deny the seriousness of the situation.

Projection: The person may accept the fact and admit the seriousness of it yet deny any responsibility of the event.

Some examples of denial include: “I feel fine”, and “This cannot be happening to me.”

Anger

Entering the second stage of grief of anger, the individual recognizes that denial cannot proceed. Anger is expressed and the person becomes difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings or rage and envy.

Physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure and level of adrenaline.

In order to manage anger, the problems involved in the anger should be discussed and not suppressed.

Some examples include: “Why me?” “Who is to blame?”

Bargaining

At the third stage, the person attempts to prolong the problem, cause delay or get out of the issue. This usually involves negotiation for an extended time, a re-do or forgiveness. These negotiations are typically done with the bearer of bad new or the one with higher authority.

Some examples: “Just give me more time”, “I promise that it will not happen again”

Depression

e fourth stage of grief the person begins to understand why the event took place. During this time, the individual may become silent, refuses to see people and isolates themselves. This process allows them to disconnect from reality of the situation and emotions. During this stage, others may try to cheer the person up – however it is suggested that they have the time they need to grieve.

Some examples include: “What’s the point?” “Why bother?”

Acceptance

The final stage of grief deals with acceptance. Here the person fully understands, is at peace with and accepts responsibility. They accept loss and realize the previous four steps.

The person now expresses: “It is going to be okay”